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Post by glambertfelix on Apr 11, 2015 3:31:57 GMT
This is actually sort of a dual-themed thread? Er, anyway, I'm gay. Pretty much. I mean hey, girls are hot af but I don't think I could be heterosexual or romantic. Platonic, yes. But anyway..my dad. Is not exactly transphobic, if that means hating trans people. He doesn't understand a lot of it and I think I'm just gonna not tell him I'm gay, too--because I presented it to him hypothetically a while ago, some trans and gay celebrity I made up--and he just looked so confused and like 'b***h please' and was like, 'so...he's actually a straight girl, you mean.' and that infuriated me SO MUCH GAH
anyway has anyone had this experience? of being gay AND trans, and having to deal with that? erk.
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 11, 2015 3:37:09 GMT
*raises hand*
My partner (a cis man) and I (a transgender man) get the gamut of bizarre, inappropriate questions from our parents.
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Post by glambertfelix on Apr 11, 2015 3:41:26 GMT
ah, good to know I'm not the only--well, I knew I couldn't be the only gay trans guy but I wasn't sure if anyone here would have had those same issues.
My mom I think just tries to stay out of it. She was really accepting at first but she thought that me having dysphoria equaled me being disgusted by women's bodies. I told her that a lot of trans guys are straight, ergo NOT disgusted by women, but since I now know I'm most definitely not straight, I feel like that could open up to more problems in that sense.
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 11, 2015 3:47:16 GMT
Well, I mean, the main problem is that they're straight, and cis, and they're not really going to get it. The best you can do is try to educate them a little but if it makes you more comfortable to just roll with it, go for it.
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Post by glambertfelix on Apr 11, 2015 3:50:30 GMT
yeah, I feel like....in my family and community, though my dad thinks otherwise--aside from him, everyone I know is going to be pretty okay with me being casually out and not being uber serious and...I mean, I am sending a coming out email to the people I haven't told in person yet but in general I feel like I don't need to give out every little detail. I will definitely answer any questions and I won't hide things, but it's gonna be a lot less of a huge announcement thing because I really don't want it to be like that for me. I just told my parents in the car like, "hey...so...um...I'm trans..."
My parents already knew because somehow my dad saw something online cx
so they were prepared, at least.
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 11, 2015 15:17:05 GMT
Sounds good. I wish you the best of luck.
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Post by Death by Reindeer on Apr 11, 2015 16:32:00 GMT
Sounds like it won't be too much of a problem, I mean I know a lot of gay trans guys and your parents don't seem to mind much. A lot better than mine tbh.
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Post by mysticalgiraffe on Apr 12, 2015 1:01:49 GMT
i gave my dad a heart attack. first i came out as gay (identified as genderfluid, so that means i was dating MEN), then i came out as trans, then i brought home a girlfriend. his mind was certainly in a tizzy trying to work all that out. eventually, he decided i was straight, and told me that he was glad i was just confused and not evil :/
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Post by nicthedic on Apr 14, 2015 1:25:38 GMT
the way I describe it is a gay man in a woman's body, my mum didn't understand at first but I think she finally got the idea after awhile. c: At least you aren't alone, I am also in the same boat
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