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Post by nicthedic on Jul 16, 2015 17:44:29 GMT
So lately I have been feeling gender neutral most days and fine with presenting as female but then some days I just wake up and feel like I must bind and present masculine and if I don't I start feeling depressed all day. Is this just my dysphoria or am I more gender fluid?
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Post by puppycat on Jul 16, 2015 18:10:20 GMT
Well, no one can really tell you who you are, you know? That's up to you, since you know you best.
That said, I'm genderfluid, more masculine, and that sounds like what happens for me. Some days I'm very neutral, and others lead to panic or anxiety if I feel I'm not presenting properly. Not saything that of course you are dEFINITELY GENDERFLUID these are the requirements welcome to the club, but maybe if you haven't yet do some research? Genderfluid blogs, information, etc. It might help sort things out for you?
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Post by nicthedic on Jul 25, 2015 17:14:41 GMT
Thanks for the help c:
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Post by puppycat on Jul 25, 2015 21:16:59 GMT
Of course! Hope everything works out!
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Post by rukkai on Jul 28, 2015 19:48:52 GMT
I hope this doesn't seem like I'm hijacking your thread, I just wanted to ask a question in a thread that already touched on agender/genderfluid issues and this one was at the top so...
I've been exploring my gender lately and I also feel agender. Though some days it's more genderflux than anything else... Anyway. I'm scared that I'm only identifying with these terms because I have a habit of wanting a lot of attention. What do I do if that's the case? And I mean... I feel pretty awesome with my gender and sexual identities the way they are defined now (genderflux/agender and bisexual), but I'm still worried that I've explored this part of myself for all the wrong reasons.
Has anyone else felt that way? What did you do then?
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Post by puppycat on Jul 29, 2015 21:40:07 GMT
Gonna jump in with another reply, because- yeah. Yeah, been there, done that(still occasionally am/do, to be honest)
There's a lot of bad rap around, you know, questioning yourself, especially when it comes to gender/sexuality. The "are you/I just doing this for attention?" pops up a lot, I've noticed, in the lgbt community. Like if you have any doubts, well, you're automatically in the wrong- no, you can't be this/that since you have x doubts- but that's, frankly, bull. Questioning things is good, it's healthy; it's only when questioning crosses over into anxiety and 'Okay what if' becomes 'But, but, what if'
Because at that point we're not questioning things anymore. We're second guessing, you know what I mean?
Do you feel good about yourself? About how you identify? Do you feel comfortable, at ease, in this identity?
I try not to let myself get to that point. When my thoughts seem like they're about to spiral out of control and I get, frankly, a bit obsessive over it, I try to take a break. I breathe. I imagine a stop sign in place whenever my thoughts start racing. I tell myself this is who I am, and if later I find it's not, that's okay, too. It's okay. I tell myself this constantly. It helps.
(this turned into a bit of a lengthy post, sorry about that sjghdfh hope this helps?)
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Jul 30, 2015 0:54:49 GMT
Puppycat has it on point. People change their identity all the time, what's important is how comfortable you feel with yourself.
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