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"just a phase" May 25, 2015 19:57:00 GMT

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Post by nicthedic on May 25, 2015 19:57:00 GMT

How do you guys deal with your family or parents thinking that it is just a phase?

My big sister recently asked me about my sexuality and made a comment about how "my guy thing is over" in reference to me being transgender (which I still consider myself to be trans) my sister isn't transphobic or homophobic. She is in the lgbtq community and one of her best friends is going though hormone replacement therapy. And then there is my mum. She has not only seen me dressed as a guy in the house but I also got a suit for prom and I still use Nic as my name (not sure if I will stick with it but it works) and she thinks this is also a phase.

Then there is my boyfriends friends and mother. His friends can be homophobic so I don't really hang out with them and well his mother is a whole other boat of joy and happiness.

I am just not sure how to get people to understand this is who I am, and if I have been feeling like this for years then it probably is the real deal.

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"just a phase" May 26, 2015 1:05:21 GMT nicthedic likes this

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Post by thepumpkinking on May 26, 2015 1:05:21 GMT

I'm going through a very similar struggle right now and I tried "proving myself" in a way by being more open about who I am and mentioning it more often in an attempt to get my family accustomed to the thought of me being nonbinary, or just different from the "little girl" mold that I've been put in. It hasn't worked for me, people can be stubborn like that, so my best advice is this:
It's hard to not care, but that really is the key to not being so affected by things like this. They will hopefully come around at some point, and just try your best to explain who you are. It may take time and it really is a lot of baby steps but that's all you can do. You can even try finding things on the internet that may better explain things, and if explaining isn't the issue then just be yourself, there's really not much else to do (at least as far as I know).

huntyr Fresh Meat Posts: 21	"just a phase" Jun 17, 2015 18:34:58 GMT via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by huntyr on Jun 17, 2015 18:34:58 GMT It also helps a bit to keep on reminding them and try not to just give up and fit the mold, bc toning it down to try to make it easier on them only makes it way harder for you. Good luck

nicthedic Moderator Posts: 187 Mini-Profile Background: {"image":"http://chopperpapa.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/rainbow_flag_2-t2.jpg","color":""} Mini-Profile Name Color: 05ffe1 Mini Profile Text Color: 05ffe1	"just a phase" Jun 17, 2015 21:02:06 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by nicthedic on Jun 17, 2015 21:02:06 GMT Well had my gay friend come over while my big sister was here and use my correct pronouns and its still not clicking sigh
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Post by nicthedic on May 25, 2015 19:57:00 GMT

Post by thepumpkinking on May 26, 2015 1:05:21 GMT

Post by huntyr on Jun 17, 2015 18:34:58 GMT

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