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Post by lindsay on Apr 23, 2015 1:50:17 GMT
does anyone have any advice on coming out to parents? my dad is a very good guy, but he's old and probably has no idea what asexuality is. i don't know if i should bring it up with him before i come out or at the time. any thoughts?
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Post by becbecmuffin on Apr 23, 2015 2:56:23 GMT
I haven't discussed my asexuality with my parents, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
I would bring it up first to get a feel of it. If he doesn't understand, do your best to explain it with him. Testing the waters is always a good idea. If he writes it off but not in a violent way, give him time, maybe share some articles with him about it to soften him up before you come out as ace. If your dad is a good guy, he'll try his best to understand and support you.
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Post by Nyxks on Apr 24, 2015 18:06:15 GMT
Depends on their views in general about non gender binary sexual orientation - if the person is phobic in general about anything other then straight then it might be a issue since some people view asexual as just another word for gay/lesbian or in many cases hasn't meet the right person of the opposite gender yet ... simple to the issue with being ChildFree by Choice and ppl saying you'll change your mind when you marry or get older type deal.
My own side of things, I told my folks when I was in my teens that I was asexual (i'm almost 40 now) and my mom was like so am so but when you find your special someone that might change or something to that effect, she was open about things on a biological level mostly because she taught sex ed within the hospital system. My dad just brushed it off and continues to do so. My mate I told long before we got together in person, N never read any of the material that I sent hir and it wasn't under we actually where married that N came to understand just what I had been saying to hir for the past year plus.
Best I can say is to take it slow and understand that parents tend to only won't the best for their child, if you know your romantic orientation that might be helpful to the talk, as you can say you are an asexual biromantic or hetromantic type deal, less your aromantic then that might be a harder to thing to explain (i know even my mate doesn't understand it to this day 8+ years later).
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Post by isotoperuption on Apr 27, 2015 4:45:10 GMT
I've attempted to come out to my parents and given up due to reasons of frustration (Mom doesn't think it's a real thing and Dad just doesn't really care), but I've seen the common advice is to start with the basics and go from there. Explain that you were reading up on the topic and you feel that it fits you. Best of luck!
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Post by lindsay on Jul 22, 2015 3:02:15 GMT
does anyone have any advice on coming out to parents? my dad is a very good guy, but he's old and probably has no idea what asexuality is. i don't know if i should bring it up with him before i come out or at the time. any thoughts? edit: i just thought i should say that i came out to him on june 6th and it went well!! he's still a little confused about it all but he didnt say anything bad and im not kicked out so yay!! if you want to ask about how i did it go for it!! (so many exclamation points haha) |
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