|
|
Post by Jay on Apr 19, 2015 16:39:03 GMT
For some reason I managed to develop a crush on a straight guy again. This would not be a problem except that he keeps talking to me about his relationship problems and bad luck and its just getting to me. Also he has no idea. As far as he knows I don't like anybody, much less him?
How do you folks deal with incompatible orientation?
(I'm not sure how much of this was a rant and how much was useful)
|
|
|
|
Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 20, 2015 1:53:41 GMT
I would talk to the person and let them know how you feel and set good boundaries.
Remember, you don't have to reveal your orientation if you don't feel comfortable, but it might do you some good.
|
|
|
|
Post by flowerkid on Apr 20, 2015 2:34:26 GMT
it's better to be open than to bottle it up friend! sit them down and just talk, if they're a good friend they'll understand. be safe!!
|
|
|
|
Post by Jay on Apr 22, 2015 1:28:16 GMT
I could probably tell him and not have him stop being friends with me, but idk what that would accomplish besides making things awkward for a week ( or more because I only see him in person twice a month or thereabouts)
What do you mean by set good boundaries? Like physical ones?
|
|
|
|
Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 22, 2015 1:30:15 GMT
Well, I mean, physical and emotional and stuff. Boundaries are good for things other than just physical things. Like, if you don't feel comfortable talking to him about relationship things, tell him.
I feel like getting it out there will help you, because you're not having to carry around this big secret, and communicating positively and respectfully with your friends will do nothing but help strengthen your relationship with them.
|
|
|
|
Post by Jay on Apr 23, 2015 0:17:49 GMT
I'm just scared that
a) It'll be the wrong time (while he's already dealing with relationship stuff)
b) He'll think less of me for telling him when i know there's no point (and over the internet)
c) idk I've never done this before.
|
|
|
|
Post by hailstorm on Apr 25, 2015 3:10:15 GMT
a) yeah now might be a bad time
b) tell him in person then
c) there's a first time for everything
|
|
|
|
Post by Nyxks on Apr 29, 2015 22:11:15 GMT
Just wondering if you are sure he is straight, have you even talked about that side of things with him in a general topic type deal - just cause he's dating a girl doesn't necessarly means he's straight because there is a possibility that he's bi or pan and just isn't overly open about it because of how both are viewed by the public at large.
just a couple cents of thought
|
|
|
|
Post by Jay on May 7, 2015 16:22:40 GMT
Sorry, didn't check back here until just now. Nyxks, I guess I don't know unless I ask him outright, but I'm pretty sure he's said he was straight before. Has definitely implied it through language used..Thanks though
Anyways he now has a girlfriend for real so regardless I have no chance anymore. I don't think I'm going to tell him. Maybe it will just go away over time. In the meantime we're having a star wars marathon this weekend, should be fun.
|
|
