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Post by stagecurtain on Apr 16, 2015 7:32:11 GMT
So, I've been feeling weird Abie stuff, and wanted to get some other nonbinary folks opinions on stuff.
Mostly, how do you guys deal with new people? Or more specifically, how do you talk to new people about your pronouns?
And, has anyone else considered transitioning physically to the opposite sexual characteristics, but still feel non binary? Like, as someone who is afab, I feel a strong urge to transition to dude parts, but I'm definitely not ftm or really transmasculine. I was wondering if anyone feels like this at all?
Happy Thursday, everyone.
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Post by phlox on Apr 16, 2015 20:29:51 GMT
I know a couple of NB people who are dfab but present masculine -- they're on testosterone and wear binders daily.You're definitely not alone!
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 16, 2015 21:10:51 GMT
I knew someone who was non-binary and they just got top surgery, too.
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Post by alex on Apr 16, 2015 22:09:32 GMT
I'm not very good at requesting my proper pronouns yet so I can't really help with that. Though I do have a friend who introduces themself by saying "Hi I'm [name] and I use they/them pronouns" I don't feel like that's feasible for everyone, especially not people with social anxiety like me.
The desire to transition is totally normal and valid! My friend's partner is nonbinary and got top surgery, and it's something I'm considering for myself. Bottom surgery is a possibility for nonbinary people too; it all depends on your personal experiences with discomfort/dysphoria and how you want your body to be.
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Post by stagecurtain on Apr 17, 2015 14:48:50 GMT
Thank you guys so much, knowing that I'm not alone really helps, especially when Ive been feeling so weird about it. You are all wonderful.
As for the introduction idea Alex, I also deal with a lot of social anxiety, but that's a really great idea nonetheless. Thanks!
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Post by hi on Apr 17, 2015 23:08:24 GMT
I'm cis (sorry) but my date just came out as non-binary... I don't know much about the topic of genders, I'm completely new to this, but I was wondering what I could do to make them more comfortable and respect them. They requested they/them pronouns, and I do my best to remember, but I was wondering if there was anything else I could do to show my support. They are having a rough time of it with other people, and I want to help them feel more comfortable and give an example to others who, like myself, don't understand how to approach this.
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Post by stagecurtain on Apr 18, 2015 17:37:08 GMT
No need to apologize, friend, you are who you are and who you are is obviously very caring:)
So, firstly, the fact that you're looking to learn is awesome, so you're on the right track! Secondly, respecting pronouns is huge. Keeping to using those, and correcting others that you're date is open to is seriously helpful. For me at least, it's always really great to have someone else sticking up for me so that I'm not single handedly correcting pronoun use. And this goes for when they're not there as well. But make sure you know who they're open to first, because correcting people who they haven't come out to would be no beuno, unless that's what they want. All of this goes for names as well, if they've changed names.
I hope this makes sense!
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