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Post by blurryface on Apr 15, 2015 23:21:03 GMT
i made a post in the dear diary thread referencing this, but i need help. my assistant band director traveled to visit his family over spring break, and he didn't come back. he didn't call or anything, he just didn't show up to work. he wouldn't respond to my band director when he tried to contact him. he was missing for a week and no one but his family knew where he was. it's so unlike him to do something like this, because he's an actual human puppy and he loves his job.
my heart sank today when i found out he was baker acted and he's refusing help. he doesn't think he needs it. i hate to say i suspected it was something like this because he's talked about being in a "funk" for a while and i knew exactly what he was talking about. but as a student i couldn't really offer him that much support without it looking creepy, especially because he's young. i want to get him a gift or maybe just a card that says "we miss you," but i have no way of getting it to him and i don't think my band director would appreciate it. not many people in band would be fond of the idea either because they don't like him in the first place.
all i know is that when i would have suicidal thoughts it would've meant the world to me if someone would've let me know that they cared. he's not allowed in the school or around any of the students, and people think that's in his best interest but i feel like isolation isn't the answer here, even more so because he's not accepting help. i just want to show him support and i can't.
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Post by becbecmuffin on Apr 15, 2015 23:53:51 GMT
Does he have a significant other or a roommate that you could contact?
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 15, 2015 23:54:06 GMT
Why is he not allowed at school or near any of the students? Is that standard once you've been Baker Acted?
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Post by flowerkid on Apr 15, 2015 23:57:19 GMT
i made a post in the dear diary thread referencing this, but i need help. my assistant band director traveled to visit his family over spring break, and he didn't come back. he didn't call or anything, he just didn't show up to work. he wouldn't respond to my band director when he tried to contact him. he was missing for a week and no one but his family knew where he was. it's so unlike him to do something like this, because he's an actual human puppy and he loves his job. my heart sunk today when i found out he was baker acted and he's refusing help. he doesn't think he needs it. i hate to say i suspected it was something like this because he's talked about being in a "funk" for a while and i knew exactly what he was talking about. but as a student i couldn't really offer him that much support without it looking creepy, especially because he's young. i want to get him a gift or maybe just a card that says "we miss you," but i have no way of getting it to him and i don't think my band director would appreciate it. not many people in band would be fond of the idea either because they don't like him in the first place. all i know is that when i would have suicidal thoughts it would've meant the world to me if someone would've let me know that they cared. he's not allowed in the school or around any of the students, and people think that's in his best interest but i feel like isolation isn't the answer here, even more so because he's not accepting help. i just want to show him support and i can't. hey dude, i know how you feel on this one. my speech and debate coach was baker acted and we weren't allowed to see her, and it's total crap that they isolate people right? that never helps at all, but soon you'll be able to see him! you could be able to visit him not as a student, but as a friend. just give him kind words and reassurances, if that's all you can do. just let him know he's not alone dude. he's not gone and you can help him out of that funk dude! maybe bake him something?? :0 |
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Post by blurryface on Apr 16, 2015 0:49:42 GMT
thank you for all of your replies. he's never mentioned a roomate, and he doesn't have a significant other. i'm not sure if it's a baker act policy or a school policy, but i can't just ask my band director for his address to send a letter or something because i'm not supposed to know this much about the situation.
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Post by becbecmuffin on Apr 16, 2015 1:09:19 GMT
Well you could say you'd like to write a letter to him simply because it's been so long and you're a little worried. You could also maybe find his email online?
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Post by blurryface on Apr 16, 2015 1:40:00 GMT
Well you could say you'd like to write a letter to him simply because it's been so long and you're a little worried. You could also maybe find his email online? i didn't think about email. i know his school email, but i'm on the fence about emailing him because i don't know if i'll get in trouble for doing it. i guess this is just turning into venting than solving a problem. |
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Post by flowerkid on Apr 16, 2015 1:43:48 GMT
Well you could say you'd like to write a letter to him simply because it's been so long and you're a little worried. You could also maybe find his email online? i didn't think about email. i know his school email, but i'm on the fence about emailing him because i don't know if i'll get in trouble for doing it. i guess this is just turning into venting than solving a problem. either is ok dude, you could send him an email from a non-school source! there's no way they can stop you for supporting a friend in need dude. as for venting, we're always here dude. be safe. |
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Post by becbecmuffin on Apr 16, 2015 1:47:44 GMT
It's okay to need to vent rather than want a solution. Trust me I do that all the time. We're always here to listen <3
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Post by lacontadora on Apr 16, 2015 1:58:48 GMT
I hope things work out ok, for you and him both, but we are definitely always here to listen! Vent away
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Post by Misfit Reindeer on Apr 16, 2015 2:38:27 GMT
Yup yup, venting is perfectly fine. I vent all the time.
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Post by blurryface on Apr 16, 2015 2:39:26 GMT
thanks guys ❤️
this shouldn't happen to anyone, but it hurts that it's him because he's so young. this is only his second year teaching, and adjusting to the "real world" is probably still hard. it's disheartening. is this what life does to good people?
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Post by becbecmuffin on Apr 16, 2015 2:51:40 GMT
Not always. And I'm sure that when he's done with this, things will be better. I've learned that just because now is hard, doesn't mean tomorrow will be hard as well. There's such an unlimited future out there and we have no idea what it holds for us.
Things can get rough and difficult and downright depressing sometimes, but that state isn't permanent. Bad things can happen to good people. But good things can, too.
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