Insecure Bi Girl (for lack of a better title)

You shouldn't have to worry about it not being a big deal. Your feelings are important.

You can make a partner happy. You were just with someone who wasn't compatible with you, and that's okay! That doesn't mean that you're not capable of being in a satisfying relationship.

Very good contribution, becbec!

If you don't already see a therapist, I would suggest doing so. Talking to my therapist about my anxiety and insecurity really helps a lot. The more we talk about it and the less insecure I become, the better my anxiety gets.

I think that talking to a professional, assuming you are able to, is probably your best bet to help you get over your insecurities.

What I've learned, though, is that people who really care about you will do what they can to help you resolve your issues and won't feel like they're being dragged into it. You don't have to discuss your issues outright the first time you talk to someone if you don't want to. Sometimes just making good friends can make a world of difference in how you view yourself and your support group.

Like I said, you're more than welcome to continue posting here. We can be your support group and we'll all do our best to help you through anything you need help with.

There are so many different types of therapists out there and they all have different methods of going about things. Most of them will not tell you your issues are because you don't trust in God. If they do, they're really not a good therapist. In terms of what to expect, it's mostly just talking.

I've been seeing the same therapist for years and there are things I've only recently spoken to him about because I was nervous. It's okay if you're not comfortable opening up completely to a therapist at first. They will understand, and likely expect, that kind of behavior.

Therapists can really help you get down to the base of why you have the reactions and insecurities you do.

You're definitely not being whiny. Your problems ARE real problems. I'm 21 and still living with my parents. I have a major trust fund set up for me for college, so I have it pretty easy sometimes. But that doesn't mean that my anxiety and depression mean nothing. It doesn't mean I haven't had hardship. And it doesn't mean that for you either. We all have problems that are specific to our lives and our experiences and there's no point in comparing them.

I would suggest seeing a therapist first, because sometimes these things can be resolved with therapy alone. I personally am working on my anxiety with my therapist, but I have a prescription for medication in the case of an anxiety attack, and I'm on anti-depressants from my psychiatrist. Everyone has different methods for dealing with these issues and medication does not necessarily need to be involved, but it's not a bad thing if you do need to involve medication.

That's just my advice. Follow what you think is best for you.

Definitely, and you dont have to stick with a therapist you don't feel comfortable with. Make sure you find someone who works well with you.

Another thing you can try is volunteering at an animal shelter. If you like animals that is. It helped me build my confidence since it meant I didn't really have to talk to anyone but I was still interacting with something. Be careful though, shelters can be super depressing and you don't want to make anything worse. It's just something that worked for me.

Like becbec said, do what is best for you but we will be here if you need us

That's something to think about, I definitely love animals though I'd probably end up bringing them all home with me. I work at a daycare so I get my fill of children and then some on a daily basis, but there is a no kill shelter around here somewhere that my cousin used to volunteer at.

I probably should see a therapist and I'm sure if I found the right one it would help eventually, I'd just have to work toward the point of being able to talk to them openly. Only my two closest friends even know I'm bisexual, so it's not something I talk about much in the first place. That and I'm not sure how much that would cost me, which is another concern. I make enough to keep my animals fed and to hang out with a friend here and there, so I'd have to work out how to pay for it.