Post by jayjay1029 on Jun 20, 2015 17:16:59 GMT
I need a bit of help. Lately, I've been kind of questioning my own identity. For a little over a year, I've been identifying as a trans male. I always thought that when I wore feminine stuff, it was because I had to because of the people around me. But now that most of the people around me know I'm a guy, I can wear more masculine clothes, and I don't have to wear "girls" clothes anymore.
But the thing is, I'm starting to realize I kind of like wearing feminine clothes. Before you start saying that clothes don't have gender, I know,
I'm well aware they don't, as that's what I've been telling myself for over a year now.
But it's not just wearing feminine clothes. My options seem to be looking as masculine as I can, just not caring, or being EXTREMELY feminine, with dresses and make up and sometimes even wigs to make up for my really short hair, even stuffing my bra sometimes.
I realized the other day while I was putting on bright red lipstick and a hair net for a very long wig, that this is kind of similar to what drag queens do when they dress in drag. And I've been thinking about that for a while now.
I know I'm not genderfluid. I've thought about that. But even when I'm wearing the dresses and the wigs and the make up, I still feel like a guy on the inside. That's not to say that people who are genderfluid are bad or anything, just that I'm not one of them.
I know I'm not nonbinary in any way, I'm just a trans guy, but I also happen to like looking really, REALLY over-the-top feminine at times.
So I guess my question is, is it possible for a trans guy to also be a drag queen? Or is it not possible because I was assigned female at birth, and drag queens aren't supposed to be?
I feel like if I could use that title, I'd be a lot more content with who I am, because I don't have to feel like I'm invalidating my own gender identity when I do that. But I don't want to use that title if it's not mine to use.
So does anyone have opinions on that? Can a trans guy also be a drag queen?
But the thing is, I'm starting to realize I kind of like wearing feminine clothes. Before you start saying that clothes don't have gender, I know,
I'm well aware they don't, as that's what I've been telling myself for over a year now.
But it's not just wearing feminine clothes. My options seem to be looking as masculine as I can, just not caring, or being EXTREMELY feminine, with dresses and make up and sometimes even wigs to make up for my really short hair, even stuffing my bra sometimes.
I realized the other day while I was putting on bright red lipstick and a hair net for a very long wig, that this is kind of similar to what drag queens do when they dress in drag. And I've been thinking about that for a while now.
I know I'm not genderfluid. I've thought about that. But even when I'm wearing the dresses and the wigs and the make up, I still feel like a guy on the inside. That's not to say that people who are genderfluid are bad or anything, just that I'm not one of them.
I know I'm not nonbinary in any way, I'm just a trans guy, but I also happen to like looking really, REALLY over-the-top feminine at times.
So I guess my question is, is it possible for a trans guy to also be a drag queen? Or is it not possible because I was assigned female at birth, and drag queens aren't supposed to be?
I feel like if I could use that title, I'd be a lot more content with who I am, because I don't have to feel like I'm invalidating my own gender identity when I do that. But I don't want to use that title if it's not mine to use.
So does anyone have opinions on that? Can a trans guy also be a drag queen?